While sitting in a memorial service for a young father who had hung himself in the woods behind the sober living facility where he lived, Pamela had a clear thought come into her mind –  “They must take the option of suicide off the table while they are sane and sober, or the perfect storm can blow them over it”.

As she looked around the room where 40+ of his peers lived, Pam knew that the thought was from a higher source than herself. She went home and started thinking about what could be done to motivate folks who contemplate suicide to remove the option from their mind once and for all. She knew that only themselves have the power over whether or not to end their life. They must be empowered to make the right choice.

She came up with 5 simple questions to enable them to make the decision to live. The first person she discussed the questions with was Trey Rickert.

Pamela Wiebe has worn many hats and titles – a chaplain, a pastor, an award-winning singer/songwriter recording artist, to name a few. But her most important roles are being a wife, mother and grandmother!

Pam and her husband, Garry Wiebe have 3 daughters and eight grandchildren. The Wiebe’s have a long history of working with people in need of a “hand up”. Together they have served in many ministry positions and volunteer services during their 43 years of marriage. They were foster parents to many youth during the fourteen years their house was home to kids in CPS care. They currently pastor the Christian Gathering Church in Valley View. The Wiebe’s continue to reach out to help those in need in their community.

Pamela was born and raised in Gainesville Texas where she graduated Gainesville High in 1977. She went on to earn a bachelor’s degree in Counseling Education from University of North Texas and her Master of Divinity from Trinity Theological Seminary. She was employed by the Gainesville State School as the first female Chaplain in the history of what was then the Texas Youth Commission. During her employment there, she was the Employee of the Year and was nominated to the governor’s office as an “Outstanding Woman in Texas Government”. She was sent as a representative to a Congressional hearing in Washington DC on “Regaining America’s Youth through Faith-based initiatives”. She gained national coverage when she spearheaded the first of its kind Faith-based dorm program.

In 2017, Pamela established “Beyond Ministries, International” – a 501(c)3 non-profit organization. The goal is to network community resources to help folks get BEYOND whatever situations that are holding them back from being all they can be in life. This might be a physical, spiritual or psychological need. There are many life controlling factors that can hinder folks from living a fulfilling, purposeful life- this might include addiction, grief, homelessness, poverty, abuse, incarceration, depression, disease, PTSD, divorce … the list of these circumstances keeps expanding.

One of those is suicidal ideations, Pamela has been devastated by suicide many times during her life of community service and ministry. But when it hit her immediate family, it brought a deeper understanding of a dark world that can’t be ignored. This website has been birthed out of this. She has a passion to do whatever possible to ease the suffering that leads to suicide. She believes that if the option of suicide stays in someone’s mind long enough, the “perfect” storm can blow them over to it. Studies have shown that there can be a certain sense of “peace” which can happen when one makes up their mind to go ahead and end their life. She asks, “can the same peace be achieved when they make up their mind to NEVER take their life”? Her hope is, that once this decision is made, those who have struggled with suicidal ideations can get busy finding other options to end their emotional pain. She wants to network resources for folks who choose  life over death.

Trey Rickert was born in Denton Texas and grew up outside of Gainesville, Texas.
On Father’s Day 1983, Trey lost his 13-year-old brother to suicide. Trey was only 14. This
tragedy wreaked havoc on the life of his family – needless to say, nothing was ever the same.
This was the beginning of a lifetime of suicidal ideations. After graduating High school, Trey
attended his beloved Texas Tech and then went on to complete his bachelor’s degree in
Biology/Chemistry from the University of North Texas.

On the outside, Trey is a regular guy who has an out-going personally that loves his family. His
huge heart and sense of humor make him a great friend, son, brother, uncle and dad. Trey is an
avid fisherman and hunter which he enjoys doing with his friends and two beloved sons. He is
talented at woodworking and creating water gardens. Throughout the years, he learned to use
his talent of writing dark poetry as an outlet and expression of his hidden pain.
His sincere desire to help people led him to become a paramedic and firefighter. The day- to-
day job of a first responder carries a heavy load of emotional trauma but during his years on the
force, Trey went above and beyond his basic duties.

In 1995 he worked as a rescue worker at the Oklahoma City Murrah Building bombing. In 2002,
Trey put his life on the line while rescuing a man from a vehicle fully engulfed in flames.
Because of this event, he was awarded the Medal of Valor, the highest honor in the fire service.
He was on vacation when he learned of the 9/11 World Trade Center attack. He got in his truck
and drove straight to New York City. For 11 days he worked tirelessly recovering the bodies of
fellow firefighters and civilians out of the rubble. Trey will carry the images of these experiences
and other tragedies he’s witnessed the rest of his life.

As heroic as these deeds are, they only deepened his PTSD and survivors’ guilt which
propagated nagging thoughts of suicide. “Why did I survive, and so many of the patients die”?
“Why did I live when everyone around me seemed to be dying?” This struggle has driven Trey
to daily contemplate suicide. He tried therapy with little success. Like many others, he hid his
suffering behind his quick wit and alcohol. This eventually took a toll on his relationships and job
performance. All this together brought Trey to the edge when he decided to make a call and
pour his heart out to his pastor.

That day, Trey made the decision that suicide was no longer an “option” for him. His present
circumstances hadn’t changed around him, but he had changed. From that point, the platform
for this website was born. He now wants to be able to share his story and help others to “take
suicide off the table” once and for all. Trey says, “It’s a permanent solution to a temporary
problem, and we have to end this”!

Trey Rickert was born in Denton Texas and grew up outside of Gainesville, Texas. On Father’s Day 1983, Trey lost his 13-year-old brother to suicide. Trey was only 14. This tragedy wreaked havoc on the life of his family – needless to say, nothing was ever the same. This was the beginning of a lifetime of suicidal ideations. After graduating High school, Trey attended his beloved Texas Tech and then went on to complete his bachelor’s degree in Biology/Chemistry from the University of North Texas.

On the outside, Trey is a regular guy who has an out-going personally that loves his family. His huge heart and sense of humor make him a great friend, son, brother, uncle and dad. Trey is an avid fisherman and hunter which he enjoys doing with his friends and two beloved sons. He is
talented at woodworking and creating water gardens. Throughout the years, he learned to use his talent of writing dark poetry as an outlet and expression of his hidden pain. His sincere desire to help people led him to become a paramedic and firefighter. The day- to-day job of a first responder carries a heavy load of emotional trauma but during his years on the force, Trey went above and beyond his basic duties.

In 1995 he worked as a rescue worker at the Oklahoma City Murrah Building bombing. In 2002, Trey put his life on the line while rescuing a man from a vehicle fully engulfed in flames. Because of this event, he was awarded the Medal of Valor, the highest honor in the fire service. He was on vacation when he learned of the 9/11 World Trade Center attack. He got in his truck and drove straight to New York City. For 11 days he worked tirelessly recovering the bodies of fellow firefighters and civilians out of the rubble. Trey will carry the images of these experiences
and other tragedies he’s witnessed the rest of his life.

As heroic as these deeds are, they only deepened his PTSD and survivors’ guilt which propagated nagging thoughts of suicide. “Why did I survive, and so many of the patients die”? “Why did I live when everyone around me seemed to be dying?” This struggle has driven Trey to daily contemplate suicide. He tried therapy with little success. Like many others, he hid his suffering behind his quick wit and alcohol. This eventually took a toll on his relationships and job performance. All this together brought Trey to the edge when he decided to make a call and pour his heart out to his pastor.

That day, Trey made the decision that suicide was no longer an “option” for him. His present circumstances hadn’t changed around him, but he had changed. From that point, the platform for this website was born. He now wants to be able to share his story and help others to “take suicide off the table” once and for all. Trey says, “It’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and we have to end this”!

Trey Rickert was born in Denton Texas and grew up outside of Gainesville, Texas. On Father’s Day 1983, Trey lost his 13-year-old brother to suicide. Trey was only 14. This tragedy wreaked havoc on the life of his family – needless to say, nothing was ever the same. This was the beginning of a lifetime of suicidal ideations. After graduating High school, Trey attended his beloved Texas Tech and then went on to complete his bachelor’s degree in Biology/Chemistry from the University of North Texas.

On the outside, Trey is a regular guy who has an out-going personally that loves his family. His huge heart and sense of humor make him a great friend, son, brother, uncle and dad. Trey is an avid fisherman and hunter which he enjoys doing with his friends and two beloved sons. He is talented at woodworking and creating water gardens. Throughout the years, he learned to use his talent of writing dark poetry as an outlet and expression of his hidden pain. His sincere desire to help people led him to become a paramedic and firefighter. The day- to-day job of a first responder carries a heavy load of emotional trauma but during his years on the force, Trey went above and beyond his basic duties.

In 1995 he worked as a rescue worker at the Oklahoma City Murrah Building bombing. In 2002, Trey put his life on the line while rescuing a man from a vehicle fully engulfed in flames. Because of this event, he was awarded the Medal of Valor, the highest honor in the fire service. He was on vacation when he learned of the 9/11 World Trade Center attack. He got in his truck and drove straight to New York City. For 11 days he worked tirelessly recovering the bodies of fellow firefighters and civilians out of the rubble. Trey will carry the images of these experiences and other tragedies he’s witnessed the rest of his life.

As heroic as these deeds are, they only deepened his PTSD and survivors’ guilt which propagated nagging thoughts of suicide. “Why did I survive, and so many of the patients die”? “Why did I live when everyone around me seemed to be dying?” This struggle has driven Trey to daily contemplate suicide. He tried therapy with little success. Like many others, he hid his suffering behind his quick wit and alcohol. This eventually took a toll on his relationships and job performance. All this together brought Trey to the edge when he decided to make a call and pour his heart out to his pastor.

That day, Trey made the decision that suicide was no longer an “option” for him. His present circumstances hadn’t changed around him, but he had changed. From that point, the platform for this website was born. He now wants to be able to share his story and help others to “take suicide off the table” once and for all. Trey says, “It’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and we have to end this”!